Received the following Email this morning:

Dear Mike -

You seem to be pretty open about your body and your relationship. I’m 17 and don’t really have that many friends that I can talk to about certain things and i was hoping you could help me.

I’ve got a pretty big penis, about 9″ or so, and I was wondering if you ever get hard when you least want to and how you handle it?

Thanks.

Wow.

So where to begin?

First-off, thanks so much for your letter, and I don’t mean that facetiously or sarcastically. I truly appreciate hearing from my readers! Second, and don’t take any offense at this, but you really shouldn’t be reading my blog. You really need to be eighteen to read a lot of the stuff I post.

That all being said, I was 17 once.
Now, to answer your questions.
You know the old saying that a guy’s dick has a mind of its own? You wouldn’t believe just how true that saying really is. While a man’s libido and sex drive are driven by his brain (which you do realize is the largest sex organ in anyone’s body!) arousal and erections are in fact not controlled by your brain! They are controlled by your parasympathetic nervous system, from a bunch of nerves located at the sacral region of your spine (lower back, lower spine).

In fact, it is precisely because of this parasympathetic nervous system while paraplegics and quadraplegics can still get aroused and ejaculate even with severe spinal cord injuries!

But, that’s not all!

You’re 17. You’re at the peak of puberty. So many hormones are raging through your body right now that I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t get hard every hour of every day. It’s perfectly normal, and perfectly natural!

But your question was, how does one deal with it when they do get hard?

I’m presuming you’re asking becuase you’re embarrassed about the visible “pup tent” pitched in the front of your pants.

I’ll throw a couple of suggestions out here, but I’m also going to ask my readers if they’d like to respond and offer you up some suggestions as well.

• Try different underwear. Some guys prefer boxers, some guys prefer briefs. I know some other large guys that have to wear briefs because all the rubbing from boxers gets them too excited. Me, personally, I’m a boxers guy not because of the rubbing, but because when I do get hard (and every guy gets an erection throughout the day - even in non-sexual situations), (a) it’s easier for me to hide things by wearing boxers, and (b) briefs are too constricting and uncomfortable for me. Point being: if you’re wearing boxers today, try briefs (or boxer shorts). If you’re wearing briefs, try boxers.
• Try different pants. What kinds of pants do you normally wear? Instead of jeans, try chinos. I prefer baggy pants. They hide my cock and don’t draw unnecessary attention to my crotch. When you over 8″ soft, your junk is going to show pretty much all the time.
• When it happens, don’t dwell on it. Believe it or not, most people don’t even notice! However, if you’re squirming in your chair, sticking your hands down your pants, people are probably going to notice that.
• Another thing you might try is to carry a thumbtack in your pocket (stuck into the head of a pencil eraser for safety). Then, when you feel aroused, you can stealthfully take out the tack and stick your penis with it. Not too hard! Don’t want to break the skin and cause any bleeding, but if you can give yourself a little pain to help take your mind off things it might help. I believe psychiatrists call this “aversion therapy”.
• Last but not least you can do nothing. It’s going to go away on its own! Our society places too much negativity on the male body enough as it is. How is an erect penis in one’s pants any more obscene than erect nipples showing through blouses or shirts? Both are involuntary physical responses. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Be thankful you’re getting one, because all that means is that you’re perfectly healthy and normal.

Maybe some others might have some more suggestions, or would like to weigh in with their own 2¢.

Thanks again for your letter!

—Mike / cyberczar@gmail.com

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